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My blog last week titled “Who runs the world” generated robust comments from the guys and ladies. I was pleasantly surprised to see the different perspectives shared by everyone. See: https://africanpressclub.com/who-runs-the-world-2/
Given this background, an ardent reader decided to weigh in with an article. I hope you enjoy his take as presented below:
Dateline: Blantyre, Scotland
By Ian Mccracken
Constance Chiogor Ikokwu began her article “Who Runs the World” with this statement: “it really is a man’s world.” I quickly add to that emphatic phrase an iconic lyric from James Brown, which says that: “but it’s nothing without a woman or a girl.” The meaning is clear – that we should honor, respect and value women. Sorry folks if you are looking for a bit of a spicy disagreement.
I hate to disappoint any men-hating, green-haired, bovver-booted feminists looking for a fight; you’re not going to get one from me. (Readers in the UK will probably understand this last sentence, which mainly refers to extremist feminists in the West).
I am truly for equality of the sexes. I’m aware there is a multitude of women who have a bone to pick with men in their lives. These quarrel that women have are often utterly justified (leaving forgiveness aside for the moment) for personal and/or social reasons as Constance has outlined.
In these circumstances, it is remarkable how generous, long-suffering and forgiving women have been to mankind. This subject is serious and should not be treated with levity. Progress in women’s emancipation has been slow and patchy even today and in too many places non-existent still.
History is littered with wars and unparalleled bloodshed over the centuries, mostly engineered by men. If women were in charge, I think their approach might have been different. The fact that women are less physical than men is not what has kept them from achieving equality. It is their predisposition and desire to love, nurture, uplift, and support a partner male or female.
From my conversations with my male friends, personal introspection and historical and social observations, it would appear that men in general, have little insight into the world of women. Take for instance, the subject of sex.
I asked two male friends whether they ever considered what it might be like to be on the receiving end of their genitals – to receive rather than insert. Silence. Bewilderment. Stumped for an answer. They never ever considered such a thought. These are two close friends in their twenties and thirties with what I consider to be enlightened and informed views on life and with partners.
They are open to new ideas and love debate; are above average and intelligent; well educated and are liberals. Men will never know what it’s like to be a woman. These guys were unable to continue the conversation as they would with any other subject. They were in uncharted territory. This was not in the male curriculum. Yes, we often talk about sex but it’s from the male perspective.
This is just one example of how history has marginalised women in men’s eyes. Where is the empathy? Where is the curiosity motivated by love? Where’s the wonder of how women exist as they do? Much of women’s existence and what they have been forced to do is airbrushed out of men’s mental curriculum. The powers that be throughout history are experts at writing their own history and airbrushing the rest out. Basically, the story is that women matter less.
I could go on and on about how the world would look like if women had equality. But I can’t do justice to this topic. This story, I believe, can be better told by women. So, let’s hear your views, assuming you have read thus far. I’m not an expert but I am more alive to women’s issues now than I have ever been, although I still have some way to go.
Join in the conversation ladies and gentlemen. Don’t hold back!!